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We get one chance to make a first impression.  LatinConexiones believes that the first impression is so important that we should have several chances to present ourselves and the most important step to demonstrate who we are is through photos.  Following are suggestions from LatinConexiones and others that have been accumulated from various relationship experts to help you be most effective to share information about who you are.  Remember, with a LatinConexiones full subscription it is possible to post unlimited photos.

General

Please keep in mind that this is not only a dating site but it is intended to help you build your new relationship.  The intent of the photos is to allow you to present yourself to that special person who is looking for you.   Your photos will increase the opportunity for great communication and reassurance by revealing much about who you are by giving both of you great talking points to begin the dialog.

Everybody looks the way they look and everybody appears maybe just a little different to different people.  Most people are not seeking knock-out gorgeous partners.  Most members on this site are looking for compatibility and matching chemistry as they are the primary foundations of long-term relationships and the goal of this site.

Photos are a very important part of the process so be genuine.  There are so many characteristics and qualities that can be communicated in the photos so they are probably the most important first communication.  Genuine expressions, both natural and candid, where you appear comfortable will represent you well.  The photos must be current as one of the greatest complaints about online matching sites is that the photos were old and did not truly depict the person as he, or she, is today. Deception will eventually be discovered and that will end a relationship before it has an opportunity to get started.  The photos should accurately reflect who you are.  You want them to be flattering but not overly so but be courageous enough so you do not under-represent yourself.

Please remember that there exists a distinction between what potential partners say they want and what they really want.  Their reaction to photos reveals what they really want so follow the general rules and guidelines and trust that potential partners are listening to their inner senses.

There are also very interesting distinctions in the rules and guidelines between what is favorable or unfavorable between men and women when it comes to “selfies”.  Generally selfies by women are far more readily acceptable by men.  On the other hand, selfies by men are construed differently.   Women read more into selfies by men and may perceive some concerns no matter how the males appear in the photo.

Tips

Red eye – The best way to avoid red-eye is to focus on something just beyond the camera so the flash doesn’t produce dilation.

There are many opinions regarding natural lighting from the great outdoors and manufactured lighting inside.  Here again there are some gender differences.  Generally, women react favorably to photos of men outside.  They like the idea of ruggedness while men like photos of women inside showing their softer side.  There are many photo ops on this site so there is room for flexibility.  If it is an indoor shot utilize the natural light from a nearby window but be sure it shines well on the subject.  An indoor photo without natural light appears softer if that is what you wish to show.  Outdoor natural light at its brightest can reveal shadows so wait until the sun is lower in the sky.

What to wear?  Everyone has color combinations that flatter or enhance the color of the skin, eyes and hair.  So pick those colors and avoid clothing with big patterns.  Remember that horizontal lines accentuate body width and vertical lines accentuate body height and a slimmer appearance

Primary photo

A photo of the face showing the shoulders and the hair is great for the primary photo.  Let that be the only photo of the head unless there is an interest in demonstrating different hairstyles or other changes.  Select makeup and accents that are as close to natural as possible.  This will serve the potential relationship well as hopefully the partner will eventually see you close to natural.  That first impression can be validated over and over again.  Have the camera positioned at a slight angle and typically photos that shoot slightly down at the subject are more favorable.  Be mindful of what is in the background so nothing distracts from looking at your face

Second Photo

Include a full-body photo as your second photo.  Remove the mystery as immediately as possible so the viewer doesn’t have to do any guesswork.  Remember, if the first impression is made complex in any regard the viewer will move on before reading the rest of your profile.

If there is a desire to appear slimmer do not face the camera directly.  Stand with the body facing slightly to the right or left of the camera angle and leave the feet in place while turning only the top portion of the body toward the camera

Supporting photos

This is an opportunity to show the rest of who you are.  Show your passionate interests, your hobbies, your leisure preferences, what you do with your friends, family and the many different facets to your life.  LatinConexiones provides unlimited photos so why not take advantage to enhance your first impression.  This opportunity should be taken seriously and there is no magical number for how many photos.

Utilize as many as can accurately depict who you are and remember using current photos is the best policy. Most people are not one-dimensional personalities.  Show who you are by using different settings or doing something you love to do.  Demonstrate your confidence about who you are.  Do not show similar photos to others you have already posted.  This area of photos does not necessarily need to have you in every photo.  If you have captured something with your camera that has touched your heart or your soul then share it.  Ultimately your new partner wants to know what lives inside you.  What you are doing in the photos affects how the whole of you is perceived.

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There are some precautions with photos based on extensive research.  Extreme close up photos get very little interest from matches.  If matches cannot get a good look at you they will move on

Sunglasses are a big no.  Most people want to see the eyes as to many they are the windows to the heart.  When there is a smile on the face the eyes light up to show general happiness and you want the viewer to see how your eyes look when you are happy.  Sunglasses often hide other parts of the face and facial expressions are also revealing about what lives inside of us.

Leave the baseball cap in your locker.  Remember you are trying to depict the natural you.

Do not use sex as the main feature.  There are too many negative reactions about too much skin or too sexy.  It’s not worth the risk.  Please remember that LatinConexiones is a world-wide field of potential partners and there are many varied reactions to the opposite sex displaying a lot of skin.  Why not take the safe route and save the sexy photos for later in your new relationship

Do not take your photos in the mirror.  Research has shown that this is generally a negative.  Recruit a friend and even better choose a friend of the opposite sex who will help identify your more appealing physical characteristics

Do not use a photo that has been cropped to eliminate someone else who was originally in the photo.  It is perceived as being tacky and mean-spirited.

Drinking an alcoholic beverage.  Many people show this photo so it is not unique.  Also, it most probably does not reflect what you do with most of your time.

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There are some general tips that should be followed.  The left side of the face is received with a more pleasant reaction because we present more emotion with the left side of the face.  It is a great way to show emotion in a still photo.

Show the total body.  Studies have shown that women are attracted to the body as men are.  The condition of the body helps to reveal a person’s self-respect and that is important to men and women

Smile – there are experts who say that a smile is less effective for men and more effective for women.  But the one indisputable fact remains and that is a smile indicates happiness.  For the women a smile can be much more flirtatious and for the men the smile should be sincere and warm.

Men

It is good to display pride but not good to be vain.  Women are most attracted to men displaying pride and less attracted to men who display vanity.  Showing pride helps the men to look more masculine.

Show one or two photos with friends looking happy and natural.  Such a photo demonstrates an ability to build healthy relationships and also that others enjoy spending time with you.  Avoid the photos of beer bashes; there are no good reactions to them.  If you show yourself in a group be sure that it easy to find you in the group.

Do not try to look perfect.  Show the many sides of who you are and that you are a normal person and you are not pretending to be perfect.

Photos with family are especially appealing to women as they can assume that you are close to your family.  The importance of family in a man’s life reveals vital information.  It indicates possible potential as a great father.  It also shows the potential for being a good partner and ability to fit into the family of the new partner.

A photo with your pet?  Sure.  Women have a good perception of men who are kind to animals.  It reveals another side to the man that women will like.

Photos of men outside get more attention than photos of men inside.  Include a mixture of both in all of the photos.

Women

Women should display happiness.  Men are most attracted to women displaying happiness and less attracted to women displaying pride.  It also helps as the relationship grows for the men to be able to see if his new partner is truly happy.

Photos with dogs or cats?  Save the photos with the pets until later in the photo stream.  Men do not react the same as women to photos with pets and leading with the primary photo as the one with the pet may indicate very little room for the new partner.

Kisses and pouting.  These are negatives to men.  Men do not want photos of these.  They want the kisses to be real and the pouting to be gone.

Use current photos!  This is one of the critical areas of online matching.  Men who are experienced with online sites report that about one-third of the photos of the women were old photos.  Old photos are a form of lying and that will stop a relationship before it ever gets a chance to grow.

Indoor photos are more attractive to men.  The soft lighting from indoors helps to give a softness to the woman and being indoors helps to make the photo a little more intimate and even a little sexy.